An Unfortunate Impulse...

We were driving up the highway a few days ago when one of the kids asked about sarcasm. I can't remember how the conversation started. Who knows how these things start. The question was put to me. "Dad, what's sarcasm?"

At this point, a wiser man than I would see where this was headed and end things before they got out of hand. Me? I have this delusion that when a child asks a question it is because of a genuine deficiency of knowledge and it is my job to supply it. Oh yes, I think, I can answer that for you my son. Behold, I have the very nugget of understanding you've been seeking. Be comforted by the abundance of my accumulated factoids.
This impulse to awe the masses goes way back. I remember taking rides in the car as a child and trying to bait my sister into asking me questions so I could have the pleasure of answering her.

So, when one of the kids asks a question, there's this impulse that drives me to answer. It's like a force of nature, a pontification instinct. "Sarcasm," I said, "is when you say one thing, but mean another. You use it for emphasis."

Bear in mind, my children are all under ten. According to accepted psychological standards, they are incapable of anything but concrete thought:

"Cognitive development refers to the development of the ability to think and reason. Children (6 to 12 years old) develop the ability to think in concrete ways (concrete operations) such as how to combine (addition), separate (subtract or divide), order (alphabetize and sort), and transform (change things such as 5 pennies = 1 nickel) objects and actions. They are called concrete because they are performed in the presence of the objects and events being thought about."
-- From an article on the Lucile Packard Children's Hopital at Standford

In other words, children under twelve only understand things they can see, touch, hear, taste or feel. They are the ultimate existentialists. This is why they struggle to communicate emotions. They can only explain how being sad or angry makes their body feel. To say one thing and mean another is not difficult to understand, it's impossible.

Children tell lies, but they know they are lying and they mean to convey the exact information they give, even if it is untrue. My children couldn't grasp the idea that you might say a thing that is untrue and mean the thing that is.

So I began to explain. In my defense, my wife helped with this part.

"If I go to the refridgerator and bring mommy back a Diet Pepsi, and she says, 'Thanks, I love Diet Pepsi.' Does she really love Diet Pepsi?" (imagine me investing exaggerated contempt into the phrase)

The children, who know we prefer 'the red can' as they call Coke to all others, answer "No, she doesn't like Diet Pepsi."

"So, why did she say that?"

"Because she doesn't want to hurt your feelings."
"Because she might like it she's never tried it."
"Because it's what you got her and if she doesn't like it she can get her own."

Concrete answers. It never even occurs to them that mommy was insincere in her statement. Never. The rapid fire answers were all based on the firm conclusion that she said exactly what she meant to say.

Just as I'm about to launch into another example and attempt to explain this abstract concept, my wife looks at me. She's out. I can tell by the look in her eyes. She's not going any further with this. Why, I think? We can explain this. We're smart. We can break it down for them.

Then the epiphany strikes me as well.

I am teaching my children to be sarcastic. I have a five-second horror show in my head of the sharp-tongued teenagers these kids will grow up to be. They are quite articulate now. Another five or ten years and straight answers will be a thing of the past. WHAT AM I DOING?!?

"Dad...?" they ask. They are waiting for me to re-engage. I stifle the pontification response. I suppress the teaching reaction.

"Let's talk about something else." Mom quickly supplies a new topic and we're off again, swerving away from the verbal doom I had steered us toward. Maybe I've learned my lesson. Maybe. I'm morbidly curious what it will be like when they do grasp this unattractive concept. They could all become brilliant satirists. More likely they will simply lampoon my every attempt to teach them anything after the age of fourteen.

But hey, that's life for a parent, right?

Long Ago and Yesterday...

I was leaving a comment for a post on  Derek's blog when I sort of got carried away. What resulted was a short paragraph that caricatured the names we have for the days of the weeks. The idea got me thinking, though, so I wanted to write a full post about it.

It's no shock that Christianity has permeated the culture for the last fifteen-hundred years. Our laws, our holidays and our history are sealed and stamped with the influence of Christ and Judaism. Jesus isn't the only name we throw around so casually. His might be the name by which we must be saved, but we needed a few more names to fill out the calendar. I'm curious what exactly it was about each day that made the ancients think, hmm, we'll name this day such-and-such.

Do a little research (read Wikipedia) and you'll find some interesting characteristics attributed to our weekly routines. Are people more likely to drop their pants on Monday? Do we all feel a little more confrontational on Tuesday? Are eye injuries or shrewd bargains more likely on Wednesday? What about lightening strikes? Do big storms usually come on Thursdays? Of course, we've all had dates on Friday night. After a long Saturday with the children, a father just might feel like eating them all up, only to be overthrown by them later. And Sunday? Um. Actually, that one doesn't make much sense.

Cronus and the Delicious Baby by RYE BREAD of DeviantART

Well, if you didn't look it up on Wiki and you have no clue what I'm ranting about, I'll fill you in. Every day of the week is named for a heavenly body or a god or goddess. Moon-day, Tyr's-day (Norse equivalent of Mars), Odin's-day, Thor's-day, Frige's-day (Norse equivalent of Venus), Saturn's-day and Sun-day. The months of the year work the same way. Think Julius Caesar for July and Caesar Augustus for August, two deified emperors of Rome. After August, their creativity kind of ran out because September, October, November and December are named according to the Latin numbers for seven, eight, nine, and ten respectively. Oh well. Being creative wasn't really what Rome was good at anyway.

Nike. American Shoe of Victory

Nike. Roman Goddess of Victory

I like to find old names in new places and I love it when I 'get' the reference. If you think about it, you probably could name a ton of things we see everyday named after some old king or god or something. It's as common as Nike shoes.